Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama.”
– Miguel Ruiz
Beware of the viral mind game that touches most everyone!
The mind game I’m talking about is the tendency to make assumptions, rather than activate the courage to ask questions.
“He might get mad ” so…”I won’t ask.”
“She is probably too busy” so…”I won’t bother her for help.”
“It won’t change things” so…”I won’t say how I feel.”
If you listen deeply, you will hear most people making assumptions about almost everything. If you pay attention to what your mind is doing, most likely you will catch yourself in the game too.
This mind mechanism operates in an attempt to figure things out—it spins and spins in assumption to stay in control. It makes up a story and creates an illusion that we can ‘know’ so that we don’t have to take a risk.
* One of the biggest addictions on the planet is the addiction to the Need to Know.
The problem with this habit is that it keeps our attention in the mental realm and cuts us off from being fully connected with ourselves and others. When we make assumptions we squelch our expression and curiosity. We disconnect from our body’s wisdom and the feelings that run through us. We abort the juicy experience of true vulnerability and intimate connection.
This mind pattern works great if you love your little world of comfort and safety. It works if you don’t want anyone to come close and get to know the real you. It is a perfect pattern to perfect if you want to keep the strength of your vulnerability at bay.
The downside of this safety pattern:
Making Assumptions limits true possibilities
Refraining from deeper inquiry limits you to fantasy and closes you off from a world of unknown possibilities.
Making Assumptions can hurt others
Have you ever made an assumption about someone only to find it not to be true?
Making Assumptions squashes intimate communication
Have you ever avoided asking questions, only to find out later that you could have saved time and energy if you would have been courageous enough to inquire?
This week engage your inner witness. Are you making assumptions…about yourself, situations or others?
If so, challenge yourself. Save valuable energy by asking yourself: “Is this thought form I’m creating true?” “How can I know this is true?”
If you want to live a life where you feel vibrant and happy, commit your courage to ask questions in order to gain clarity. Choose to have those intimate conversations.
Make a Pact to take on more Personal Power:
Mantra: I choose to ask questions.
Sparkle in 2014