“Guilt is a cancer. Guilt will confine you, torture you, destroy you as an artist.
It’s a black wall. It’s a thief.”
– Dave Grohl
Every day I hear people say they feel guilty. And, I certainly know this ingrained habit myself. At one time, it was a ‘go-to’ place for me. I’d go to guilt every time I judged myself for not living up to my created image of perfection- the beliefs my program set up for me to feel acceptable and loved. Or, I’d judge myself when people around me implied that Something is Wrong with Me. And, for sure guilt would arise when I reinforced the thought that I’m Not Okay. I didn’t know another way at the time.
Guilt is a contagious cultural epidemic. I’m not surprised my program became infected with the guilt virus at an early age.
When guilt was my constant companion, I didn’t have awareness as to what this low vibrational critter was doing to me. And even if I would have recognized how guilt was causing me to suffer, I still wouldn’t have known how to stop its insidious numbing effect.
Many people struggle with guilt their entire lives, while others desperately attempt to escape by amorally denying it altogether. Chronic guilt is a self-created emotion that serves no purpose.
Here is Guilt’s simple operation:
JUDGMENT > GUILT> SELF PUNISHMENT > JUDGMENT
When I sit with people seeking to become free of stress and unhappiness guilt is often a presenting problem. We confront the Judge and question the beliefs that fuel this nasty habit. When you gain awareness to the ways you perpetuate guilt you gain ability to unwind its grip. Freeing up a chronic guilt habit frees up energy to be present to your life now. And besides, you’ll experience less stress and more ease.
According to Dr. David Hawkins in his acclaimed book Power vs Force, guilt is the second lowest vibration on the scale of human emotions, second to shame. He goes on to say that guilt results in psychosomatic disease, accident-proneness, and suicidal behaviors. Very good reasons to say Enuf Already!
Does Guilt Ever Serve Us?
Yes- guilt can be a self-correcting mechanism that arises to tell you that you are off course. When you realize you made a mistake, took a wrong turn, or hurt someone with your words or actions, guilt arises to get your attention. It’s time to recognize the ways you deal with yourself and others in unconscious or unruly ways.
When you’ve hurt someone, take your heart for a walk in their shoes. If you’ve hammered yourself with self-judgment, let it go. And, forgive yourself for judging yourself. Otherwise, your guilt will ask you to pay and pay, again and again. This is not a way to Raise Your State.
My teacher taught me that you PAY ONCE!
Feel how you’ve hurt someone and take responsibility for new actions.
Have a Heart to Heart with whomever you’ve disappointed.
Prove to yourself that you can learn from your mistakes and trust yourself to refine your intentions and actions.
1. Acknowledge your Responsibility by saying what you did that was hurtful.
2. Apologize from your sincere heart.
3. Ask for Forgiveness and then be patient.
4. Act to re-build trust.
DROP your Image of Perfection ~ Accept that you are perfectly human, not perfectly perfect in all ways. Endeavor to be the Best You…not the image of perfection you might hold for yourself. Embrace your wholeness. Not only the light side of you, but all of you. This includes the unconscious actions that hurt others and you.
It is a courageous act to make amends to others and love yourself when guilt comes in as a self-corrective mechanism.
It is a Holy Day when you release the energy from a Chronic Guilt Habit. This is a big step in Raising Your State.
“What you believe is very powerful. If you have toxic emotions of fear, guilt and depression, it is because you have wrong thinking, and you have wrong thinking because of wrong believing.” Joseph Prince