Do you say Yes to your imperfect messy self?


“Tell them about how you’re never really a whole person if you remain silent, because there’s always that one little piece inside you that wants to be spoken out, and if you keep ignoring it, it gets madder and madder and hotter and hotter, and if you don’t speak it out one day it will just up and punch you in the mouth from the inside.”  ~ Audre Lorde


Have you ever been told you just need to ‘think positive’ and your problems will go away? Or, that to achieve what you want in your life, all you need to do is visualize it and put energy behind it and it will happen?

While it is true that when you use your most generous lens to peer into the world, the world tends to reflect back to you its generosity. Being grateful, kind, generous and compassionate uplifts our spirit and our heart and the world around us.

Most likely your experience tells you that positivity feels great. And yet, do you recognize that it doesn’t always get you where you want to go? And for sure, being positive all the time doesn’t support you creating a deep connection with yourself or intimacy with others.

The unstoppable energy of always being Up is not sustainable. 

While it may feel good for awhile, in time, the Downside of Up will arise. You can deny and repress negative thoughts and emotions, you can band-aid them up with all kinds of avoidance strategies – substances, busyness, shopping, sex, spiritual by-pass or work, to name a few, but ultimately, what we deny and repress wrecks havoc in our lives.

The downside of positive thinking is that it teaches you to ignore the deeper intelligence within you that shows up in sensation, intuition, instinct, and your dreams.

Denial of challenging emotions or deeper truths that are attempting to inform you will create a split within you. This internal separation costs you your power, your heart, your psyche and your happiness.

Imagine including and being present to all the spaces that move through you and use them as tools for growth:

  • Grief can bring greater compassion.
  • Anger can create a much needed boundary – a strong No.
  • Insecurity can be a catalyst for challenging yourself.
  • Fear leads to a leap into greater courage.
  • Depression signals something needs to change.
  • Failure offers you a second try to become wiser.
  • Boredom can birth a new creation.

Those states that the judge labels negative or unacceptable offer you openings to Raise Your State. When you open to your wholeness, you experience greater peace and presence, you feel connected all the way through.

Beyond our concepts of positive and negative, there is beauty – the mystery and magic of our whole being – our soul being.

Our soul being counts! It deserves to be seen and celebrated.

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