“When life throws difficulties at us and the mind is restless, emotional resilience will see us through these challenging times.” ~ Christopher Dines
Do you ever wonder how to cope with, express or manage your emotions?
Do you over-react to situations or suppress your expression?
I want to share with you the importance of developing Emotional Resilience, what you need
and HOW TO DO IT.
Emotional Resilience is your ability to adapt to stressful situations or crises. It also entails your ability to engage in intimate communication. You STAY OPEN – present to the situation and to the emotional winds that move through you.
With Emotional Resilience you’re able to ‘roll with the punches’ without lasting difficulties. You handle minor stresses so you can handle the major ones more easily. You can ‘hang’ with the tough conversations without bailing or shutting down.
Many people weren’t raised in environments where people knew clear, healthy ways of dealing with emotions. Heightened emotional drama such as Impulsive rage, chronic sadness, unconscious anxiety, disapproval or fear can feel chaotic or scary to us as children. We don’t know how to respond to these situations, other than to create some kind of safety strategy to cope and survive. Our safety strategies are controlling habits or masks we wear to keep us from feeling more deeply.
At the other end of the spectrum, we may have lived with people who rarely expressed any emotional energy and instead dealt with us through action and intellect. Even if we believed we were taken care of and loved, emotional language and intimacy were not modeled to us.
Either way, without a healthy model of expressing emotional energy, we don’t naturally learn an effective way to navigate those winds of emotion that move through us. The downside is that we struggle with intimacy with ourselves and deep connection with others.
Emotional Resilience is a great attribute to have.
It helps you STAY OPEN to you ~ AND OPEN IS YOUR NATURAL STATE!
IF you …
ignore…Suppress…Make up a story… Analyze…Interpret…Dramatize…
or Think you ARE your emotion ~
YOU DON’T STAY OPEN.
Being Open is feeling alive, vital and present. It’s being deeply connected inside, to your inner knowing and voice. Staying Open gives you ability to meet life with your heart, clear boundaries and the strength of vulnerability – without defense, without a story, without an agenda.
Emotions that run through, rather than get blocked and locked in the body, help you transcend to deeper states within you. Without emotional resilience, you live in your head and block the energy of emotion that allows you to feel life and become intimately connected with you.
How comfortable are you in staying open during these emotional winds?
ANGER ~ FEAR ~ GRIEF ~ EMBARRASSMENT ~ FRUSTRATION ~ DISAPPOINTED
HOPELESSNESS ~ SHAME ~ JEALOUSY
Next time an unfamiliar or normally suppressed emotion pops up, recognize it as a wind of energy that is attempting to move through you. Stop all tendencies to talk yourself out of feeling it, interpreting it, dramatizing it or suppressing it.
Instead ~ BREATHE and feel the sensation as just that – SENSATION.
Your Breath is the strongest power you have to STAY OPEN. It is a sacred ally that consistently
moves you to those deeper states within where greater relaxation and peace lie.
IF you choose to strengthen your Emotional Resilience take on the challenge of increasing your:
EMOTIONAL AWARENESS – what am I feeling? BREATHE IT!
PERSEVERANCE – trust in the process of life
GREATER PERSPECTIVE – look for the gift or meaning
OPTIMISM – see the positives and your own strength
PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY – know you have control over your attitude and actions
ASK FOR SUPPORT – reach out
BREATH PRACTICE – DAILY!