“After 15 years together, we were struggling! I felt isolated and he felt attacked, and we were not finding our way out of that crazy distant dance. Victoria’s profound teachings and loving support taught me life-long tools that have transformed my relationship with myself, and in turn have become the foundation of the intimate and loving partnership that I now cherish.” ~ Kris
You are a smart and capable woman living in an incredibly stressful world. It’s complicated!
Now more than ever our world and the systems of our world are shaken to the core. We are experiencing the chaos that goes along with transformation as old systems of division and inequality are rebooting us into a new more awakened world.
Our relationship to our world is shaken up, our relationship with ourself is up for examination, and massive stressors are burrowing into the very fabric of our primary relationships.
What condition is your relationship with your partner?
- Do you two stand strong together, on the same team, and supporting one another?
- Does your trust and respect create a safe space for each of you to cope in your own way with current life?
- Is your emotional, physical and spiritual connection as intimate as you want it to be?
I hope so!
And… if NOT… I have the transformational relationship tools you need to restore and recreate the intimate connection that empowers you both. You’ll transform your relationship from merely surviving together and into thriving and growing as a couple.
If you know it’s time to reset your relationship, I suspect you’ve been living on shaky ground for awhile. Maybe you’ve lost touch with your open, honest and vulnerable communication. Or, you’ve grown frustrated as the close, supportive connection you once felt has been replaced with managing life, logistics and the stressors of this unprecedented time.
If you know your relationship could use help to reconnect and grow and you are READY…
I INVITE YOU TO JOIN ME in my Courageous Loving Relationship Immersion Course NOW!
Over the next 11 weeks you’ll learn my proven strategies that will release tension in your relationship system and build the foundation that sets you both up to feel that great love that empowers you individually and as a couple. You’ll learn how to shift the energy in the system of your relationship to create a safe and loving space for deeper connection.
Women are the nurturers, connectors and transformers of relationship. Relatedness to life is in your DNA. As you recognize your innate power, and gain relationship know how, you have the capacity to create massive transformation in relationship with your man.
I’m here to support you!
Imagine engaging in a relationship where you will:
- Release those chronic frustrations or disappointments that never seem to get resolved.
- End the old destructive communication loop that keeps you feeling separate.
- Activate the Smart Tools – the nuts and bolts of relatedness between a man and woman.
- Set clear relationship boundaries that ground you both with greater clarity.
- Access your Heart Powers – the energy medicine that nurtures your emotional intimacy.
- Build a Smart Bundle – the ground that builds safety, trust and respect.
- Connect with Him by speaking your feminine voice and learning his masculine language.
Most importantly, you’ll grow into your most Courageous and Loving self!
If your relationship has been simmering along or fizzling out, and you’ve been avoiding dealing with the challenges facing you both…
This Immersion Course is for You.
Statistics currently show that 41% of first marriages end in divorce. And statistics don’t begin to speak about the traumatic affects on everyone involved. I’ve weathered this destructive storm and I don’t want that for you or for me again.
Maybe you’ve read the books and heard the podcasts. Maybe you’ve tried couples counseling – and it didn’t go so well. You haven’t given up, but you don’t know what to do to feel the intimate connection and companionship you once had. I can tell you that YouTube videos and podcasts won’t fix the chronic patterns that create separation and disconnection that have brought you here.
(I get it – relationships are complicated! But there is a way. Stay with me…)
Can you relate to the following? You are:
- Tired of him going away or getting angry when you try to connect ~ feeling lonely for closeness and connection.
- Trapped in an endless loop of the same arguments ~ feeling lost as to how to shift this too familiar dynamic.
- Considering an exit strategy – feeling confused and trapped.
- Wondering where the trust and respect you once had has gone – feeling sad about your negative thoughts.
- Looking in the mirror and saying to yourself: ”I don’t like who I’m becoming.”
- Hopeless that your sex life is heading for a slow death ~ not feeling so sexy anymore.
(You are in the right place and I’m SO glad you’re here)
Hi, I’m Victoria Allen
I’ve become a seasoned wise woman through the trial and error of two types of relationship > Relationships that eek along surviving in struggle, disconnection, mistrust and a lack of intimacy ~ and Relationships that thrive with the intimacy skills to create deep connection, clear communication and the emotional and physical intimacy that every couple desires.
I was absent the day relationship 101 was taught in school, and frankly, I believe most people took that day off too.
After a few difficult years in my first marriage, I left my profession as an OB-GYN nurse practitioner to become a marriage and family therapist. I chose my education to learn the dynamics that heal relationships and families. And, I truly wanted insight into my own unhappiness. My education and training gave me great tools to help others and to heal myself. That was 30 years ago.
What I want women to know is that I mainly learned how to cultivate a great relationship the hard way! Through the experiences of unhappiness, betrayal and divorce. And the repeated heartbreaks that devastated me.
My first long term marriage uncovered a deep wound in my heart – an absent-father wound. It brought to light my mistrust of men and my fear of abandonment. It showed me how out of touch I was with my true values. The longer I stayed in our dysfunction, the more lost I was from myself and the more unhappy I was with my husbands choices. The day I looked in the mirror and saw an angry women looking back at me, I knew I needed to heal myself. And my healing began.
My second marriage showed me two things about myself. One was that I didn’t know how to express the clear, strong boundaries that would have supported our relationship. Secondly, I didn’t know or recognize how my accomplished masculine energy could derail my husbands confidence and presence with me. This relationship helped me face and heal my relationship to my feminine nature – the part of me that innately knows about connection and relatedness.
Through healing these relationship heartbreaks, I came face to face with myself. I began to see the fearful ways I showed up in relationship and how I blocked love and intimacy, both with myself and with my partner. As I shattered the protective patterns that guarded my heart, I discovered my own strength and courage to create a healthy relationship.
Overtime, I’ve come to see the challenges and difficulties between men and women when they don’t understand and respect the differences that the masculine and feminine energies bring to relationship. When I learned about the need for this polarity, I began to know the depth of true intimacy.
And now – my true life partner has shown up! Doug and I are best friends who have each others backs consistently. We’ve created a relationship that moves each of us through growth and into deeper levels of emotional, spiritual and physical intimacy. We got this male/female relationship dynamic down and I love to share it with woman who want a depth of loving connection that nurtures their heart and the soul of their relationship.
Today, I’ve created a system of proven strategies that I give my clients to revive their challenged and troubled relationships. It’s rooted in my education, yet more importantly formed through my personal experiences of learning the intricacies of what it takes to create a heathy relationship with myself – the first act of creating a healthy relationship with a partner. I’ve honed-in on the specific energies, the courageous actions and heart opening practices that upgrade a relationship system.
I’m passionate about empowering women to create the relationship reality they want to experience.
“Nothing Changes without Courage and Nothing Transforms without Love.”
Introducing:
COURAGEOUS LOVING
Courageous Loving is an interactive online immersion experience ~ meaning you’ll need to make a conscious commitment to dive deep into yourself and your relationship. I’ve designed this course with Smart how-to tools and Sacred energy medicine that foster intimacy with yourself and your partner.
This is NOT therapy and you won’t be in this alone.
It’s a “done with you” hands-on training where you will take actions to gain awareness and receive relationship-healing tools each week.
Benefits You’ll Receive
You Will:
- Receive mentorship and support – to integrate a new mindset.
- Connect with your wisest inner-self – who guides you to lead with your heart.
- Enhance emotional resilience – to replace reactions with response.
- Initiate the many Love Balms – that empower you and your partner.
- Understand the differences – in how the male and female minds meet relationship.
- Peer into the relationship mirror – to uncover unconscious patterns.
- Communicate with increased clarity – opening space for greater compassion.
- Recognize the sabotaging monkey – who puts a wrench in your connection.
- Deepen your self-acceptance – immunizing yourself against self-abandonment.
- Ground into greater self-respect – to set clear boundaries that support relationship.
- Strengthen your self-trust – to take care of you and your relationship.
- Rid the toxic communication patterns – to shift separation and create connection.
- Create the male/female polarity – that vitalizes your sex life.
$2850
This 11-week course includes 9 weeks of teaching modules, two 45-minute private sessions, and a weekly group Q & A zoom call.
Join me to remember who you are as the Transformer of Relationship.
I charge $225 for an hour personal coaching session. While in the course, I offer extra sessions to you for $180.
How It Works
Courageous Loving ~ 11 Week Relationship Immersion
This 11-week online course consists of teachings and awareness homework exercises delivered to your inbox every week. They are designed to deepen your awareness and stimulate new actions to transform your relationship. You will have two private 45 minute sessions with me and I’m available by email to support your process. You’ll have a weekly group Q & A call to bring your personal questions and receive support for your process.
Why You'll Love It
Learn in Process
This is NOT a linear, Do It Yourself curriculum. It’s a hands-on class where you’ll take action on what you learn each week – and be supported every step of the way. I’m here to answer your questions by email or on our Q & A calls.
Proven Strategies
My teachings are based in spiritual, psychological and yogic philosophy. For over 3 decades, I’ve mentored and empowered women to know and love themselves so they embody the qualities that contribute to healthy and happy relationships.
Curriculum
COURAGEOUS LOVING IMMERSION COURSE
MODULE 1:
Initiate Transformation
- Initiate your Intent and Commitment
- Gain clarity about the state of your relationship.
- Love ~ Illusions ~ Power Struggle
- Implement your first Love Balm that stimulates connection.
MODULE 2:
Understanding Relationship
- Clean the Mirror to dissipate projection.
- Release Your Old Relationship Story
- From Surviving to Thriving
- Use the Love Balm that re-ignites.
MODULE 3:
Get Clear
- Train your Brain for Love & Connection
- Define and Implement What you Desire
- Meet Your Courageous Lover
- Worthy ? Unworthy ?
- Refresh with this Love Balm
MODULE 4:
Foundation
- Meet the Betrayer of Love
- Eliminate 5 harmful habits
- Let Go & Forgive
- Press the Love Balm that uplifts him.
MODULE 5:
Everything Begins With You
- Strengthen self-loyalty to stop abandoning you.
- Create confident self-acceptance & self-trust.
- Radical self-respect defines clear boundaries.
- Implement the Love Balm that nurtures You
MODULE 6:
Sacred Heart Powers
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- Get Honest to develop Trust
- Shift Disrespect to Respect.
- Implement the Love Balm that disarms your Betrayer
MODULE 7:
Yin Meets Yang
- Embrace the Potency of Polarity
- Welcome your Feminine Power
- Yang Dominance and Yin Practices
- Implement the Love Balm that ignites your feminine power.
MODULE 8:
Conscious Communication
- Learn Conscious Communication
- Empower You, Him and Your Union
- Male & Female Differences
- Implement the 1st Act Love Balm.
MODULE 9:
Sexual Intimacy
- Why, What & How of sexual intimacy.
- Explore beliefs, barriers and myths.
- Spice up your pleasure.
- Implement the Love Balm of all Love Balms.
What's Included ~ Recap
Here’s Everything You Get When You Sign Up:
- 11 Weeks of Hands-On Learning and Homework
Deep dive into your relationship immersion classes supported by worksheets and tools. - Two 45-minute Private Sessions during week 4 and week 8.
- Online Portal & Email Reminders
Access all your materials in one place and stay on track throughout the program. All materials are yours to keep indefinitely. - Weekly group Q & A to get your questions answered and receive support.
Client Testimonials
About Your Guide
Victoria Allen is a seasoned marriage and family therapist, transformational teacher and seminar leader who has worked to empower people seeking relief from mental-emotional and spiritual suffering for over 3 decades.
After a successful career as an OB-GYN nurse practitioner, she transitioned to become a psychotherapist and teacher of yogic and Toltec traditions. She has since helped hundreds of people heal and raise their awareness to arrive into greater wholeness.
Victoria’s unique combination of education, relationship experience and spiritual depth has made her a much sought after wisdom guide. She has created Courageous Loving to empower women to use the transformational Smart Tools to raise the state of their relationships.