You CHOOSE!

“Face your life, its pain, its pleasure, leave no path untaken.” ~ Neil Gaiman I suspect you’ve tapped in to the tumultuous winds of upheaval in our country over the past few weeks. I know I have. The collective consciousness has been and still is stirred up in a palpable way. Reactions, strong opinions and feelings are heightened as our world is in turmoil and transition. Last weekend our Ojai women’s circle shared our responses to the election. The circle became a container for the different points of view and feelings that were expressed. There is power in holding heart space for all to arise-to be seen and heard. And, this is what we do in circle ~ We Listen! From my perspective, Listening is
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Do you know a camel?

You miss intimate connection in your relationship…and you don’t know how to get it back. You reach out over and over again to a friend…who doesn’t reach out or have time for you. You have good ideas about how a family member should be running their life…but they don’t follow your directions. And…you can’t figure out why you feel the distance and disconnection. Relationships lose oxygen sometimes. Whether you have a relationship with a friend, lover, parent, sibling or child, it takes oxygen to nurture and sustain a relationship. When I say oxygen I don’t necessarily mean time and attention, although those are strong nutrients that every relationship needs in order to flourish. When I say Oxygen, I mean RESPECT Respect, as we typically define
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Are You a Dream Master?

“The dreamtime, the creative matrix, does not exist in a place outside of us. Rather, it infuses all matter and energy, connecting every creature, every rock, every star, and every ray of light or bit of cosmic dust. The power to dream is the power to participate in creation itself.”    ~ Alberto Villoldo In the words of my teacher, Miguel Ruiz, ” A Dream Master creates a Masterpiece of Life.” I ask you, “If your life was a masterpiece, what would it look like, feel like, and be like?” Imagine for a moment that your life is already a masterpiece. An evolution happening to you, for you and within you! You are here as a spiritual being having a human experience. To free up from
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Be Impeccable with your Energy

“Lingering, bottled-up anger never reveals the ‘true colors’ of an individual. It, on the contrary, becomes all mixed up, rotten, confused, forms a highly combustible, chemical compound then explodes as something foreign, something very different than one’s natural self.” ~ Criss Jami Maybe you have heard the saying ‘what goes up…must come down’.  The opposite is true as well. What we push down – true feelings, honest expression, needs and wants…will bring up our words and actions in convoluted and destructive ways. If you, or someone you are in relationship with, has a difficult time being honest with feelings, needs and wants; it may be that these withholds are adding a drag of resistance to your relationship. A woman recently confided to me that she had
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Too Much + Too Much

“The best and safest thing is to keep a balance in your life, acknowledge the great powers around us and in us. If you can do that, and live that way, you are really a wise man.” ~  Euripides  Too Much This or Too Much That = Too Much I’ve decided it comes down to this: when I’m cranky, dull, tired, overloaded and not feelin the Love…it’s time to reflect! These alert signals tell me that I’m not operating on all cylinders and it’s time for me to pause and check in with me. I peer in to three areas of my life that, when in balance, open me to my internal flow. 1. Chop Wood ~ Carry Water 2. Satisfaction 3. Pleasure 1. CHOP
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Take On the Light Side

“A lot of conflict you have in your life is simply because you are not living in alignment; you are not being true to yourself.” ~ Steve Maraboli Take on the Light Side of Selfish Are you trained to not be selfish? Do you experience pangs of guilt when you need to say “no” to your partner or friend, and “yes” to your personal needs? Have you ever abandoned your own needs in order to not be selfish and ended up feeling you went against yourself? (This is the conversation that showed up in all 4 of our Dream Pods last week. So this one is for you girls!) When you constantly put other people’s well-being and desires ahead of your own, this sets up
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Perk Him Up Women!

“Love is the feminine polarity, not purpose and direction.” ~ David Deida Consider this: The masculine nature of man (DIRECTIONAL, CLEAR and ACTIVE) is attracted to the feminine essence of a woman (MAGNETIC, OPEN and RECEPTIVE) Women in Heterosexual Relationship ~ This one is for you! If you are feeling discouraged by a lack of connection in your primary relationship… If you are feeling unattractive or unattended to due to your partners lack of sexual interest or decreasing performance… If the fire and passion you once had is replaced by frustration, bickering and feeling stuck in the humdrums of your relationship… Fear not. Most of these issues are temporary and can be remedied. They are not permanent or hopeless. I’m here to offer you a
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Do you Flow with Resilience?

“When life throws difficulties at us and the mind is restless, emotional resilience will see us through these challenging times.”  ~ Christopher Dines Do you ever wonder how to cope with, express or manage your emotions? Do you over-react to situations or suppress your expression? If you say Yes, read on! I want to share with you the importance of developing Emotional Resilience, what you need and HOW TO DO IT. Emotional Resilience is your ability to adapt to stressful situations or crises. It also entails your ability to engage in intimate communication. You STAY OPEN – present to the situation and to the emotional winds that move through you. With Emotional Resilience you’re able to ‘roll with the punches’ without lasting difficulties. You handle
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Roses & No Roses

“The minute I heard my first love story, I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was. Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They are in each other all the time.”  ~ Rumi         Happy Valentine’s Day, Being the romantic that I am, I remember that specific Valentine’s day as I waited in excited anticipation for my sexy,  generous, spiritual, romantic husband to waltz in the door from work with his usual Valentine roses for me. It was him all right… but No roses! You can know that my romantic expectations took a nosedive, along with my princess attitude. and then… my TAKING IT PERSONALLY story showed up, “I’m not a priority or lovable enough.” and then… my INSENSITIVE MEN story showed up, “They
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What It Takes to RYS!

“All that we are is the result of what we have thought. If a man speaks or acts with an evil thought, pain follows him. If a man speaks or acts with a pure thought, happiness follows him, like a shadow that never leaves him.” – The Buddha   We’ve recently arrived home from the land, “Where humans awake and know their divinity.” Yes! That would be Teotihuacan. For over 25 years I’ve returned each year to this sacred playground that shakes us down to deeper truths. The transformation that occurs in the light of Teotihuacan illuminates the ways we have been dreaming our life. New awareness shines through to transform limitations. I’m continually blown away by the sincerity, honesty and vulnerability that you magnificent
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