What do you know about intention?

“What you think, you become. What you feel, you attract. What you imagine, you create.”  ~ Buddha Happy New Year Raise Your Staters, It’s been awhile since I’ve written a newsletter. I’ve taken some rejuvenation time after our Soul Powered apprentice initiation in Teotihuacan (the soul train blasted off for sure) to listen deeply to my body and the great Dreamer who shows wise counsel. I’m feeling strong to have adjusted and established a freer state inside of me – less push, more ease – less doing, more being – less of my mind’s crazy ideas and more of my soul’s inspiration. Taking a big pause works! Our Soul train is traveling into 2018 with many Raise Your Staters who are committed to greater awareness, peace and love. I hope you’ll
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Do you say Yes to your imperfect messy self?

  “Tell them about how you’re never really a whole person if you remain silent, because there’s always that one little piece inside you that wants to be spoken out, and if you keep ignoring it, it gets madder and madder and hotter and hotter, and if you don’t speak it out one day it will just up and punch you in the mouth from the inside.”  ~ Audre Lorde   Have you ever been told you just need to ‘think positive’ and your problems will go away? Or, that to achieve what you want in your life, all you need to do is visualize it and put energy behind it and it will happen? While it is true that when you use your most generous lens
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Be the Peace in the Eye of the Storm!

Are you standing strong in the eye of the storm? Or, has the chaos of our times uprooted you?  Turbulent times can bring out the best in us, or the worst in us. Our internal state determines which way we will go. With massive floods and fires across the globe, political uprising and threats of growing nuclear power, it is clear that we live in shaky, uncertain times. Many people are feeling scared, confused, concerned and helpless in the midst of these tumultuous times. And, many people want to contribute in a supportive and positive way. Most certainly, we are all a little more in touch with the fragility of life. If you desire to become established in a more peaceful inner state and stand strong in the storms of life, here are
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The Drama Triangle

“Drama is very important in life. You have to come on with a bang. You never want to go out with a whimper. Everything can have drama, if it’s done right. Even a pancake.”  ~ Julia Childs What is your relationship to drama? And, I’m not talking about the pancake kind. You know – the stories, opinions and emotions that send you up, pull you down and spin you all around, using a ton of energy. Whether you see it on the news, experience it with your mate, or spend time with your long lost family, I suspect you do know about the drama that dissipates energy and creates distance in relationships. Today, I want to share with you a model called the “drama triangle’. This dynamic is based on work by Stephen Karpman,
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Priceless Gems

“Love and Compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them humanity cannot survive.” ~ Dalai Lama Have you ever wanted to help a family member or close friend who has a tendency to suffer quite regularly? Maybe they are chronically depressed or feeling stuck or victimized by their life circumstances. You hear them complain, you feel their sadness or anger, and you watch them get caught up in the chaos or confusion that follows them around. Since you’ve been Raising Your State, you know that gaining awareness opens you to new possibilities and more conscious choices. You also know that dismantling faulty beliefs enhances the quality of all your experiences and relationships. Most people who suffer on a regular basis don’t recognize that much of their
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Is Your ‘No’ Ninja on Board?

I”m as proud of what we don’t do as what we do!” ~ Steve Jobs Is your ‘No’ Ninja on board to keep you Loving you?  If you look at your life, maybe just this week, I suspect there may be a few things you could have said “no” to but you didn’t. For most of us, we could probably say ‘no’ about a billion more times than we do. But, typically we don’t. Being a Doer has become the gold standard in our western culture. If you are like many people, action, accomplishment and accumulation have become a top value. In fact, when your identity is fortified by being a Doer, saying ‘Yes’ to working harder and doing more can become a familiar way of life. Giving yourself kudos, or
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What is the biggest pain in relationship?

“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging.” ~ Brene Brown, author of Daring Greatly. When I recently asked, “What do you think the biggest cause of pain in relationship is?’  to 10 women who are learning new ways of being in relationship, I heard: Communication?   NO Money?   NO Sex?   NO Parenting?   NO Often hidden, the answer is probably Not what you think it might be. A sense of unworthiness is at the root of most all problems we bring to our relationships. Given that unworthiness is often hidden in our unconscious, most people don’t recognize the underlying
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Power Struggle in Relationships

“For one person to love another, this is the most difficult of our tasks.” ~ Rilke    Awe….those first days and months of relationship feels like a series of magical moments. A new found glow fills our spirit with excitement and we can’t wait to see our beloved again. We return to a childlike state of wonder where everything we do or say–or our beloved does or says– creates a magical quality. Connection and passion build in those early days as openness, curiosity and discovery open our heart to new possibilities. Love and admiration grow and we don’t feel quite so alone in the world. Those precious moments of falling-into another brings forth the fire of passion, stimulating creativity and self-expression. And then…the inevitable hits
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What’s your Practice?

“Now is the time when we must renew ourselves and live as if we and all of life is sacred, and as if everything we do makes a difference.”  Are you managing You in the midst of our world’s transition and our collective divide, confusion and pain? It shows up everywhere…this confusion and pain, both personal and collective. Protests, marches and cries on social platforms are demonstrations of the state of our global emotional body. Yes – One consciousness =  One emotional body. We are all tapped in to the collective consciousness, whether we are conscious of it or not. I find myself connected, feeling it, empathizing with it and then making that necessary decision for me as to how I manage my thoughts and
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Be Right or Be Happy

“Being kind is much more valuable than being right,  for sometimes all a person needs is not a brilliant mind that speaks, but a patient heart that listens.”  ~ Unknown Often, I work with couples where each person is genuinely interested in taking responsibility for their participation in creating discord or disconnection in relationships. They own their stuff! They recognize the value in growing and moving through their personal blocks to creating intimate connection. On occasion, couples don’t recognize how they contribute to the distance and discord they struggle with. Instead, they create a position about their partner who they see needs fixing. “he/she is the cause of all our problems and my unhappiness. If only, he/she would get it right, we would be fine.”
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