Are you the Buddha?

 “Buddha” means ‘one who is awake to the true nature of reality’. Buddhism teaches that we all live in a fog of illusions created by mistaken perceptions. And a Buddha is one who is freed from the fog. Who is the Buddha in your family? You know, the one everyone turns to for greater clarity, compassion and wisdom? Might that be You? It takes conscious Awareness, Acceptance and Action to be freed from the fog so you can shine that clear light into the atmosphere of your home. One of the smartest ways to be the Buddha in your family is to Communicate Clearly. Here’s How:  Listening is primo – the #1 action Let Go of the need to control the outcome Let Go of the need to be right Let
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What Will Your Soul be feasting on this Thanksgiving? I remember sitting in the Pyramids of Teotihuacan when my teacher asked us three simple questions: 1. What does your soul need?  2. What feeds it? 3. What grows it? It was 1988, and I must admit I had not been entertaining soul life. I was too busy orchestrating my important ego life, feeling immense stress and a vague unhappiness. On that day, I found myself on a soul journey, traveling with strangers, in a foreign land, with a teacher that could barely speak English. Embarking on this spiritual journey marked a huge turning point in my life. Sitting on the hard stones in the third classroom of the pyramids, each of us guessed at answers to Miguel’s question, and we all missed the mark! In his gentle sweet voice, Miguel simply
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Become a Drop With Me

“In a world with more than seven billion people, each of us is a drop in the bucket. But with enough drops, we can fill any bucket.” David Susuki With the first news of the morning I felt a heightened anxiety. I listened more intently than ever to the newest alarm about climate change: “The world’s people face “untold suffering due to the climate crisis” unless there are major transformations to global society, according to a stark warning from more than 11,000 scientists.” And, I find it sad that the US has withdrawn from the Paris Agreement whose central aim is to strengthen the global response to the threat of climate change. I feel like I’ve been awake to climate change for awhile now, and yet with
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Forgive Yourself for Judging Yourself

“The action of entering the center point of the labyrinth represents the moment you forgive yourself. This is the action of your own forgiveness and of reclaiming the power, or the impeccability, of your own word, of your own intent.” ― don Miguel Ruiz Jr. Your heart feels heavy. Your stomach is in knots. You wish you had a do-over! What do you do when you realize you hurt someone with your words or actions? For most people, guilt is the first sensation that comes up. Guilt is a big shout-out that asks you to listen up, bring awareness to yourself and the situation. It prods you to figure out how you are going to fess up and make this right. Guilt is a great corrector, yet if
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When Is Enough Enough?

Figure Out When Enough Is Enough Whether you are working a 60-80 hour week, pressurized to meet deadlines or managing the many demands of family, you are at risk of burnout. By the time people call me for a session to sort out distress in their life or relationships, many of the precursors to burnout are already present. Headaches, hips hurting, tight shoulders, upset stomach are a few of the physical symptoms present. However, it is the increasingly negative thoughts and frustration with relationships that often prompts them to call me. I first met Jaden 6 years ago in one of my dream weekends. She was feeling a big wave of new life ~ excited to start a new job and in love with a dynamic and caring
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What Voice Is Guiding You?

Are you ever torn between your rational, logical thinking mind and your primal feeling that arises from a deeper place within?  Bet so! Just  yesterday my mind said “Go” and my inner voice said NO! This is a common conundrum most of us experience in little ways on a daily basis. There are many voices speaking to us all the time. “Do I schedule that plane flight?”  – Man, that feels like a lot of energy. “Should I return the invitation?” – I’m just not into this friendship. “Do I take the leap of faith and let go? I know it is the right thing to do! ” – I’m too scared of what is unknown on the other side. Your wise inner self will always lead you to live in deeper, truthful and
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Does Addiction Lurk Around You?

“After half a century of psychiatric practice, I know without a doubt that the source of addiction is spiritual deficiency. Irrespective of whether we are religious or atheist, all human beings are spiritual by nature and spirituality is the cornerstone of our recovery.” — Abraham Twerksi ” I’m just a hard worker, my family needs to understand me.” ” I only drink beer and wine, and I don’t drink everyday.” ” But I just love to work out 2 hours a day.” ” It is their fault, no one ever understands me.” These are some of the voices that mask the rampant addictions used to cope with our stressful culture. Let’s face it,  as the intensity of our world amps up, many people are coping
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3 Reasons To Stay the Same

“One isn’t necessarily born with courage, but is born with potential. Without courage we can’t practice any other virtue with consistency. We can’t be kind, true, merciful, generous or honest.” Maya Angelou It is a universal truth that at some point in life you will be called upon to be courageous. You may play it safe for a good long time and avoid the discomfort of change, but eventually that call will come. From deep within the depths of your being, your true authentic self will want your attention. It will remind you that you have dreams that you are not living, love that you are not feeling, and truth that you are not telling. And you know that in order to answer that call, you’re going
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Are You Friends with your Feelings?

Feelings are Not Food Contrary to popular belief, it is not actually humanly possible to EAT your feelings. To support this fact, I’ll just briefly review what eating is: You eat the ham sandwich…you digest the ham sandwich…you flush the ham sandwich. This is a beautiful circle of life that is designed exclusively for food and does not apply, in any way, to feelings. One of the things we don’t learn enough in childhood is how to openly and honestly express what we feel. In order for us to have healthy relationships, being able to feel, process and express our emotions as they arise is essential. The problem is, so many of us learn early on that it’s not safe to express our true feelings. Either our caregivers
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The 5 Givens

“Truth is rarely writ in ink; it lives in nature.” ~ Martin H. Fischer Imagine your heart as a beautiful flower – open, shining its beauty and offering its fragrance of kindness, compassion and generosity into life. You are in full bloom – present in your true nature. Now, consider that most people live in their head a good amount of the time. Thinking and Thinking – Needing to Know – Making Assumptions – Needing to Understand – Worried about the Future and Ruminating about the Past. This is the true nature of the unruly mind – addicted to thought and dampening the bloom in our heart. It is our greatest work to master our untamed mind. The more we corral our addictive thoughts and limiting beliefs, the greater our heart will shine its happiness. There are many ways to
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