Summers were fun and care-free when Blair and Mallyce were young. We spent easy non-scheduled days having play dates and swimming. Waking to our natural rhythms, free from alarm clocks, homework and schedules. We enjoyed summer as a let down time for all of us. Can you mother’s relate? By August, restless kids looked forward to a new year and being with their school friends again.
I loved September as a time to start anew. Time for me to take a new class or re-create life with me time. Even now September always feels like a new year to me. **And, it’s football season in our home, so it sort of feels like kids are going back to school and I have more time for me:)
In honor of going back to school, this newsletter offers you the ABC’s, or basics that I use when supporting people to gain awareness and unleash faulty beliefs and habits that aren’t working for them. These basics work to help people raise their state.
In Miguel’s quote above, he teaches that we create a masterpiece of art when we create our life with Love. This is my experience. I remember there was a time when I didn’t know how to do this. I didn’t know how not to worry, judge myself or feel guilty. I couldn’t see my attachments and my mind habits that caused me to resist the beauty and ease in life. I couldn’t see my part that created challenges in relationship. I hadn’t awakened to an expanded awareness that shined light on my blind spots.
I studied with Miguel long before The Four Agreements was published. Yet, when I look back I realize he was teaching us these agreements all along without identifying them. He was artful at dismantling my suffering mind. As I spoke my ‘woe is me’ issues with him, his big, soft heart often responded with “So what?” “Who Cares?” “Big Deal!” —HUFF! Let me tell you, when you are in drama and suffering, these words feel callous, hard and uncaring. “Doesn’t he realize what I’m dealing with here?” It was always his love that came through as he diligently dismantled my unruly mind with his crafty ways. He was saying ‘lighten up’, he was breaking up my illusions about life and about myself. Eventually, I came to see the humor in his ways, yet I had to dismantle a lot of beliefs to get to the humor. Miguel’s consistent love pulled me through when I was disconnected from me.
So back to school! Back to basics! When you study these four little, easy and incredibly difficult agreements, you’ll experience the powerhouse of Love that is within your heart. These agreements address our rigid fear program, releasing the faulty ways our mind dreams. They open us to the incredible spaciousness inside where Love and Peace reside. They truly guide us to take responsibility for our perception and the ways we meet life. Warning: The Four Agreements are not easy to implement. They go against the rigid beliefs in our fear program. They re-wire our brain. However, if you endeavor to master them, they will change your life. They clean up…maybe 80% of the suffering mind. If you are ready to go back to school, back to basics, I highly recommend you study. The Four Agreements
Be impeccable with your word – Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
Don’t take anything personally – Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
Don’t make assumptions – Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
Always do your best – Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret. These agreements have transformed my life and I know they will support you too. If you want to deepen into them and get a handle on what isn’t working for you, I invite you to reach out and book a session with me. We will get to the nitty-gritty of how you do this.