My Journey From Breakup to Breakthrough
December 23, 2013: My then husband and I were dressed in our holiday finest meeting up with our best friends to celebrate the holidays. We boarded a small ship and cruised around Newport Harbor as we clinked our champagne glasses and admired the beautiful array of twinkle lights adorning the homes along the shore.
Little did I know that this was the last evening we would ever spend together as a married couple.
When I went to kiss him goodnight later that evening, a text message popped up on his phone that said “I love you, baby.” In the blink of an eye, those four words sent shockwaves of confusion, disbelief and anger throughout every cell in my body. My heart sank to the bottom of my stomach. My breathing became contracted and rapid. My chest became so tight that it felt like it might burst from the immense pressure.
Yes, there was another woman – a girlfriend who he had been dating for one-and-a-half years. I didn’t want to believe it. All I could think over and over again was “how can this be happening to me?” I didn’t sleep a wink that night.
I spent the next two days living a lie. I pretended like everything was fine as we went to celebrate Christmas Eve and Christmas with family. Like the good, accommodating girl I had always been, I put everyone else’s needs first and swallowed my pain as I suffered in silence. Those were the worst 48 hours of my life.
Once Christmas was over, we broke the news to those in our inner circle. It felt so good to finally tell someone! Two days later, he moved out of our house. As the door slammed behind him, so began the first day of the rest of my life – one that, at the time, seemed hopeless.
I had no idea what to do next. I felt lost and didn’t know where to find help.
Through a series of synchronistic events, a life coach came into my life just before the calendar turned to 2014. During our first meeting, I sobbed my way through telling her my sad tale of betrayal only to learn that she too had been through it with her ex. She was now thriving and happier than ever. Hearing her story of transformation and feeling into her vast inner strength, I became determined to transcend my anguish and come out magnificent on the other side.
Without blinking an eye, I took a leap of faith and began my work to unravel my tangled web of emotions, sort through my victimhood and uncover an insidious pattern of betraying myself in order to accommodate others. The result? A serious dose of newfound self-awareness about how the choices I had been making up until this point in my life weren’t honoring me!
It felt like my slate was wiped clean. The anguish in my heart dropped away like flower petals falling off the stem, and hope rushed in as I dropped the “blame game” my ego so wanted to play. Just like that, my angst, frustration and resistance melted away.
I began to see that even painful endings can lead to incredible new beginnings.
With excitement running through me, I dreamed into what I wanted my life to look like. I explored my heart’s deepest desires and made a commitment to release everything in my life that was no longer serving me.
In a matter of months, I moved into a fresh neighborhood, started exploring a career path that was aligned with my heart (coaching!), let go of friendships that had run their course and began working on redefining my relationship with my parents. I wholeheartedly embraced a new “me” and devoted every day to growing into her.
Through this process, I came to realize that my ex-husband’s infidelity did not – in any way – diminish my value or desirability as a female. This was a complete game changer! As my confidence surged, I stopped believing the voices in my head that said I wasn’t good enough and dove head first into the bliss pool of my own greatness.
Undoubtedly, my ex’s betrayal was like rocket fuel for my transformation and catapulted me into claiming my power as a radiant, self-assured woman. Every nook and cranny of my journey was perfectly tailored to get me to where I am – wildly grateful for my life, deeply steeped in my purpose and incredibly in love with me. THANK YOU universe!
Today, I’m a coach to women and men around the globe that are breaking up with their old paradigms and ways of being and saying yes to manifesting lives they are deeply in love with. Since obtaining my coaching certification from the Life Purpose Institute and apprenticing with successful coaches with decades of experience, I’ve traveled around the globe to work with some of the world’s most influential and gifted healers and train in a variety of methods and methodologies. I have no doubt I’m living my life’s purpose, and it is the best feeling ever!
Enough about me. Let’s talk about you.
Are you at a crossroads? In the midst of breaking up with your significant other, friends, job, parents or life as you know it? Feeling lost, stressed and victimized by your life? Stifled by fear and anxiety about how to move forward? I’ve definitely been there and get how overwhelming and scary it is all at the same time. Not to mention incredibly stressful and taxing on your self-confidence.
The good news is you don’t have to navigate your transition alone.
I know that you may not feel or believe this, but underneath your turmoil is a new you waiting to be claimed and celebrated. It’s so true! Through all the twists and turns of my breakup and breakthrough, this is what I know for sure:
- The people in our inner circle are our best teachers. They illuminate and showcase all the places within ourselves that need tending to.
- Remaining in a victim state and blaming anyone outside ourselves for our circumstances leads to needless suffering. Our perspective is the key to our progress.
- If navigated consciously, a breakup of any kind can be a dynamic catalyst for personal healing and transformation. A powerful kick start for a new phase of your life.
- Everything you need to transform is already within you. It’s just a matter of tapping into your inherent wisdom and intuitive guidance.
- You can make some progress on your own, but teaming up with an inspirational coach who’s been there, done that, will give you a potent sense of belonging and accelerate your transformation – big time!
Are you ready to transcend your challenges and breakthrough to the new you that’s waiting on the other side? If it’s a YES, click here to schedule your complimentary 30-minute clarity session to discuss how together, we can empower your transition and catapult you forward into a life that is tailor made for you.
To your breakthrough,