“It often occurs that pride and selfishness are muddled with strength and independence. They are neither equal nor similar; in fact, they are polar opposites. A coward may be so cowardly that he masks his weakness with some false personification of power. He is afraid to love and to be loved because love tends to strip bare all emotional barricades. Without love, strength and independence they are prone to losing every bit of their worth; they become nothing more than a fearful, intimidated, empty tent lost somewhere in the desert of self.”~ Criss Jamie
So, as an experiment, I’ve been dreaming about other possibilities. And, I’ve come up with:
3 FANTASTIC reasons NOT to live a Courageous Life! And they work too!
COMFORT ~ Don’t you just love being comfortable?
You know–your routines and everything around you is familiar. And, the people you hang with are predictable. You feel deeply rooted in the life you’ve lived when you look around your environment and see all those memories of the past. New environment or new furniture or new color on the walls—forget that! New relationships? Don’t think so! You don’t have to risk the vulnerability of getting to know new people. Nothing needs to change and you don’t have to deal with the uncertainties and unknown that comes with change. Woo Hoo! Staying Comfortable is just fine.
Yes, why not choose familiar comfort above all else?
YOU WON’T GET HURT ~ Who the heck wants to risk being hurt anyway?
You get to live in your personal safety zone where people don’t get too close to you.You won’t have to brave possible rejection, trust anyone, or show all of your (insecure) places to anyone besides you. You don’t have to go into those vulnerable feelings that arise when you have to be intimate or negotiate with others. You get to stay self sufficient, in control and independent. You really don’t need support, love, or being interdependent with others. You certainly get to guard your heart.
Yes, why not stay safe from the risk of being hurt?
YOUR MIND GETS TO CONTROL (and you don’t have to feel) LIFE ~ Yippee!
Spin your mind in assumptions and you don’t have to risk asking intimate questions—after all who wants to experience the unknown responses that come from those unruly characters you tangle with. You get to rationalize away all those heart desires and you don’t have to experience the fear, self-doubt, challenges, vulnerability and sometimes grief that comes with going for your dreams. You get to wear those handy dandy masks – the behaviors and habits that keep you in control and safe from feeling raw and real.
So hunker down and keep your mind running your life!
SO….How did I do with this dreaming experiment?
What is your Choice? To Live a Courageous Life or Not?
I’m continuing to choose Courageous for now. If you are ready to take your next leap of faith to shake up what isn’t working for you so you can deepen into what you desire, and you want support in making the changes you know you need to make, I’m here for you!