Monthly Archives March 2017

What is the biggest pain in relationship?

“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging.” ~ Brene Brown, author of Daring Greatly. When I recently asked, “What do you think the biggest cause of pain in relationship is?’  to 10 women who are learning new ways of being in relationship, I heard: Communication?   NO Money?   NO Sex?   NO Parenting?   NO Often hidden, the answer is probably Not what you think it might be. A sense of unworthiness is at the root of most all problems we bring to our relationships. Given that unworthiness is often hidden in our unconscious, most people don’t recognize the underlying
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Power Struggle in Relationships

“For one person to love another, this is the most difficult of our tasks.” ~ Rilke    Awe….those first days and months of relationship feels like a series of magical moments. A new found glow fills our spirit with excitement and we can’t wait to see our beloved again. We return to a childlike state of wonder where everything we do or say–or our beloved does or says– creates a magical quality. Connection and passion build in those early days as openness, curiosity and discovery open our heart to new possibilities. Love and admiration grow and we don’t feel quite so alone in the world. Those precious moments of falling-into another brings forth the fire of passion, stimulating creativity and self-expression. And then…the inevitable hits
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