“Learn to love a woman, not for her body, not for her money, but for her heart. That is more precious than anything.” ~ Kale Bell
There are surely a lot of things women don’t understand about their male partner – why he goes away, why he doesn’t stand present during her spouts of emotional electricity, and why he gets so frustrated or angry.
Men ~ Do you know about going away, avoiding, waffling and spewing your angst? And all the while, wishing she wanted more sex or was happier?
Consider that there is a stance you can take and a state you can live from that will impact you and your woman. You’ll gain greater strength and she will gain greater receptivity and appreciation of you.
Creating connection and dynamic sexual intimacy comes from the polarity of two opposites. While men generally lean toward the masculine side of the polarity, women tend to lean to the feminine. Yet, in some relationships the opposite is natural. In all relationships, no matter what the sex, polarity creates attraction and intimate connection.
When I see relationships that are disconnected, stressed or discouraged because their sex life has shut down, I look to see if the polarity dynamic is present. I also inquire as to how well each partner is taking care of themselves.
In today’s world I see a big issue for many women who have developed strong, capable assertive masculine energy in order to navigate the world. They competently give direction, handle logistics and strategies at work and at home. While this gets the job done, many women are simply burned out and lost from their natural feminine state–flow, ease, radiance, receptivity, intuition, energy and creativity.
Often, they don’t realize how out of balance they are. They just know they are sick or stressed from the pressures of life. Often, they are upset and complaining about their man and not really knowing why.
Men ~ This is important to consider:
Spiritually and sexually a woman’s heart wants to be opened and inhabited by deep love. This is the nature of women. In order to live that depth of love inside of her, she needs to feel safe- deep trust and relaxation.
Here is how you can do your part to open her to her natural state and strengthen yourself at the same time. I suspect this will lead to you experiencing more Acceptance, Appreciation, Respect and Sex.
Action #1 – Know Your Purpose – Take direction to become deeply rooted in your true purpose. When you focus on your highest purpose, you’ll gain integrity and presence within you. Whether that is career, a mission or your personal growth, you’ll align with your authentic masculine nature when you are living your purpose.
To know and act on ‘why you are here’ will root you into YOU! Look at your life. Are you on track to do what you’ve come here to do before you die?
Action #2 – Dynamic Masculine Presence – The stressed feminine seems confusing, chaotic and complicated from the male perspective. What do you do with her? Can you stay open-hearted, while firmly grounding into your protective and earthy nature? Instead of trying to control or fix her moods, embrace her, wrestle with her, scream with her if you want to, and let her have her moment.
Don’t walk away or attempt to control her with your Fix–your rational mind. Practice standing still and firmly in your presence- your breath, especially in the midst of her worry or upset. This calms the vast and sometimes unruly feminine. When you relax her with your presence, she feels safe. She’ll learn to trust you. The feminine flow naturally pours forth creation on all levels of life. You’ll reap the rewards of bathing in that light.
your presence = her openness.
Action #3 – Honor Her Heart as Sacred – Your integrity holds her heart; keep your word to yourself and to her. When she knows you are taking care of you and her heart she’ll be more open and loving to you. Support her instincts as they arise, even if your rational mind can’t wrap around it. Again, trust is a foundation in relationship.
Do you know what is important to her heart?
Action #4 – Connection and Creativity – Feminine consciousness is energized by interacting with life. Women need other women to reflect them and outlets to offer their creativity into life. Encourage her to meet life in the ways that uplift her spirit.
Do you know what lights her up?
Be a great detective and watch when she becomes animated, you’ll know what uplifts her spirit.
Action #5 – Open Her Sexually – Be masterful at taking the time to relax and open her. A woman needs time and safety to let down, to open and melt tension in her body. Your trustable presence will open her heart and body. You’ll feel the polarity that arises which stimulates sexual juice. Everything is connected.
Be a masterful lover. Watch her take deep breaths with every level she relaxes into her body. You are the conductor of her orchestra.
Your loving woman will test you. She wants you to be your fullest, most magnificent self. Her love won’t settle for anything less. She’ll do what it takes to rid you of selfishness or arrogance. This is a woman that supports you.